I popped the top and took a sip of an energy drink called Red Bull. I was thinking I could use some Holy Spirit Red Bull right about now too, in preparation for the holidays. So what kind of Red Bull would it be?
I was told about a 10-year-old girl who is continually cutting her wrists. Her dad is gone and has remarried and has a new family. Her mom is working long hours just to pay the bills. The girl is bullied at school. She feels abandoned and alone. She’s cutting her wrists to end her miserable life, crying out for attention.
Suicide is the second leading cause of death in ages 10 to 24. And there are as many as 25 suicides attempted for each one that is completed. We need to get to people BEFORE they complete the process at any age! So how can we help?
First of all, people need some attention from the ones they’re close to. Actions speak loudest and words come in a close second. I tried to think of things a mom could say to a 10-year-old suicidal child. For people who aren’t used to talking heart to heart, it might take some real effort to come up with truly meaningful, helpful and specific things to say. Where to start?
The Lord gave me an exercise that I’m going to share. I did it this morning and it only took about 30 minutes. I found it extremely valuable and I know you will too.
STEP 1- I took a piece of paper and down the far left side I put a list of positive characteristics. These are the ones I put (you can of course add your own): brave, supportive, kind, helpful, calming, needed, good listener, go getter, flexible, focused, guiding, encouraging, assuring, organized, actively moving toward goals, perceptive, prepared, provider, guarding, resolved, succeeding, transforming, repair, simplified, uncover, understanding, competent, increasing, unafraid, resourceful, winning, improving, comforting, good example, broadening, counselor, correcting, challenging, moving, clarifying, fun, hopeful, seeker, strong.
STEP 2- Down the middle of the paper I put the name of the person I live with, my family members, relatives I’ll be seeing or hearing from this holiday season, friends and work people.
STEP 3- Starting at the top of the list of names, I took a pen and connected the name with at least two characteristics from the first list. Next to the person’s name I wrote down an incident that showed the positive characteristic. It was great.
STEP 4- I plan to keep the list with me so I can either tell the person about the exercise, or tell them in person what positive characteristics I admire in them.
I’m sure it will be well worth the effort. And by the way, I know the mom of that 10 year old has been instructed in a similar manner to be able to help her daughter. Please pray for the both of them. Thanks.
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When we had painting jobs that had to be done in a hurry, one of my favorite painters, a guy from El Salvador, had a saying that just cracked us up. He’d cock his head sideways, raise his eyebrows and say really slowly, “Dooooon’ push me!” We all adopted the saying and loved it. Sometimes we want to say that to the Lord. He gets pushy with us and we want to resist. “I want to stay right here. I’m pretty happy with things. Not in the mood to change things, thanks.” But the Lord says, “NOPE!”
We’ve heard the term, but is it real? The answer is yes.
What is a dare devil? It is an evil spirit that dares people to do something that is obviously stupid, risky and life-threatening. It’s the spirit that quietly whispers, “What would happen if you just drove off this cliff?” “What would happen if you barely touched that hotwire?” When the dare comes, we always know in our conscience that it is wrong but we still wonder, “What would happen if I did it anyway?” The evil spirit says, “I dare you.”
My roommate told me the story of Loreen: “We played softball together and I knew her since she was 11. Loreen had a cocky attitude and liked to do dangerous and foolish things. She thought the consequences would never catch up to her. But ultimately she died in a gunshot accident at 27 years old.” There was a construction accident here in Las Vegas where a guy fell into an open elevator shaft. The area was cordoned off in red danger tape and it was obvious that no one was supposed to cross it. I’ve always wondered if the guy had been tempted by one of these spirits and risked it. The thing about this kind of devil spirit is that somehow it gets a person to actually consider doing a really stupid thing, if only for a second. But what happens in that second is life changing one way or the other. These dare devil spirits go for the jugular; they don’t fool around and death is their aim.
After being rescued from this several times in my younger years, I now know what to do when the dare devil throws me a fast ball. Slam him out of the park! I rely on the authority in the name of Jesus Christ and speak to the spirit directly (just like when Jesus talked directly to the fig tree). I say, “Shut up and get away from me right now, in the name of Jesus Christ.” I know and believe James 4:7 that says, “Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.” And I believe and claim Philippians 2:9-10, “That at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, of things in heaven, and things in earth, and things under the earth.” Dare devil spirits are things, so they have to bow too! God truly does have the best answer for every situation!
PERSONAL NOTE: I write these articles to help regular people like you and me. I don’t write them because I have all the perfect doctrine figured out or because I always make the right decisions. God has me share my weaknesses, errors, and sins, because He knows what He got when He got me and He knows I’m not afraid to expose my mistakes. In all these experiences the Lord has never let me go, but has made me knowledgeable and given me understanding. He’s provided me with specific keys, implements and weapons to share with others so that together we can overcome, conquer and rise in victory over any of life’s obstacles . I love you very much. In Christ, Carolyn
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Last night my foreman texted me to say I could take the day off while they decided on the next step. We’d worked 9 days straight with overtime and yesterday I was crawling on my knees all day long doing baseboards, so I was sore and tired. But when he texted, in return I thanked him for the work they’d given me so far. After working long hours one is tempted to gripe rather than be thankful. But thankfulness is a great cure for the tendency to complain.
“Thank you.” These words aren’t said nearly enough. How much better would we feel if people thanked us more often? Think about it. It means that someone first of all had to take notice. And when someone tells us “thanks,” it means a positive effort, action, and decision, was made on our behalf. It’s like a baby compliment for something we said or did. And who doesn’t need a few more kudos and compliments now and then?
Okay, then what about when there’s a lack of thanks? Being thankful shows appreciation. So a lack of thanks brings depreciation. If we stop looking for things to be thankful for, the true value of the thing or person quickly deteriorates in our minds and hearts. If we let it go too far we can lose something or someone great.
We don’t want to let our relationships with good people depreciate just because we forget to say thank you. The same goes for our relationship with God and the Lord Jesus Christ.
It takes concentrated time and practice and we may have to reach deep but God tells us it’s available “in everything [to] give thanks” (1 Thess 5:18). Let’s grab our minds and make the effort to start saying and receiving “thank yous” like they really mean something. Our lives will be more blessed if we do.
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